Many poems have been written to explain,
How a mother's love can soothe the pain.
But little has been said about a Father's concern,
It is genetically impossible for you to father a child that you so lovingly mothered . . and why would you want to. The mommy benefits are much better!
Don’t you have enough to do without having to be daddy too?
As a woman, I don’t have the slightest clue what men talk to their sons about, or teach their daughters for that matter, as I also suffered from lack-o-daddy syndrome, myself. The latter has made me painfully aware of the importance of father figures in both male and female children. I read a lot of books and ask a lot of questions and miss a lot of important things because I am ill equipped (physically & mentally) to be anybody’s father. I love being a mother; I know and accept my limitations as a mother and simply shoot to be the best I can be. I play my position. My son just has to deal with it—Mom is it! I teach him what I know and leave the rest to the wonderful men in our lives. I am extremely confident in the job that I am doing—I don’t need the extra reminders on Father's Day. You know, I must be doing a pretty good job playing my position, because my Mother’s Day cards say so! Father’s Day is not about me. I am not the father. I am 100% the Mother!
If you can’t let one holiday skip without celebrating something, in lieu of sending me a Father’s Day message, try this:
3. Have a heart to heart with a man in your network (your father, son, brother, uncle, cousin, neighbor, etc.) that is not taking care of his children. By not saying anything, you are inadvertently condoning and covering up for his foolishness! Send him that text message you were going to send me. Simply say, “Your children need you. How can I help you be a better Dad?” Stand in the gap!
In honor of Dad’s that we have been able to count on in our past and present!
Happy Father’s Day *Pastor R. Wright* Pastor P. Powell*Maurice Hawkins*Jerome Simmons*Kevin Leonard*Uncle George Gaston*Santiago Tunon*
© 2010 author, Nakia R. Laushaul
The Truth As I See It: In Poetry & Prose